Alana Is Reading

American in Scotland. Grammar dominatrix. Writer. Lover of cheeses. Oldest fangirl on tumblr. Editor of GirlAlive.com. Unofficial cartographer of the Supernatural Fandom.

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feministrocker:

This is Thin Privilege: Thin privilege is never knowing that look of relief that washes over a…

thisisthinprivilege:

Thin privilege is never knowing that look of relief that washes over a guy’s face when he finds out that you’re married/engaged/in a relationship/gay and therefore aren’t interested in him.

When I was a single fat female, conversations with men were always awkward because most of them spent the entire conversation trying to communicate non-verbally that they never ever want to have sex with me.  (Not that I was particularly interested in them either.  I just have a lot of male friends.)

After I got engaged, I was amazed at how much more open and friendly men were to me, because they knew I wasn’t trying to hit on them, so it was okay to be friendly back without worrying about coming up with an excuse for why they weren’t attracted to me.

I guess this is one corollary to the whole “friendzone” concept. Not only do certain men get affronted when a woman they consider “attractive” wants to “only be friends”, but they also get nervous when a woman they don’t consider “attractive” shows an interest in friendship.

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